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ohstellastellaa
3:51 Mon Jan 4
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i took him to the pre season game he was getting well into it!! even other throw ins, bless his cottons, i think the next one to take him too will be the noble testimonial
he just gets bored of sitting in the pub doing fuck all while everyone else is drinking
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Fifth Column
3:46 Mon Jan 4
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OSS
In relation to the football, they do usually get bored quickly at the age of 5 at matches anyway. You'd need to take some colouring books or something... sorry going off on a tangent.
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ohstellastellaa
3:33 Mon Jan 4
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i never slag his dad off infront of the kid, its not far, as for the football, his dad takes him upto a pub near white hart lane but doesn't take him to the ground, to see the game and he always comes back and says it was boring as he wants to go west ham, i don't know if its just the kid being nice to me or what not.
i give it till the kid wants to go out with his mates at the weekend rather than sleep on the floor in the front room in a 1 bedroom flat, or sharing a bedroom with his dad's gf 4 kids, who she only sees at the weekends too as she had em taken away
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Mike Oxsaw
2:53 Mon Jan 4
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ohstellastellaa 2:11 Mon Jan 4
Whatever you do, don't bad-mouth his dad or his dad's new bird. Let the bile flow in and respond with sweetness & light (fucking hard, I know), but the kid will pretty soon start working things out for himself.
If you want to take him to a game, just let the kid see what matches are still left, but don't comment.
Wait for him to choose one. Then wait for his dad to fuck things up for the lad (he will). Your role will to have several alternatives waiting, but that's all. Don't push.
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ohstellastellaa
2:11 Mon Jan 4
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i'm basically having the same sort thing with my girlfriend and her boy, he is 5, the dad walked out on them both because he couldn't handle my bird and he hated living in upminster, and he wanted to move em both to tilbury, lucky for me my partner didn't want to live there a) because all the schools around there are shit, and b) its tilbury!
we've had loads of shit from the dad and his new bird, who is a proper chavnasty slag.
but the kid says i'm his dad at home, and his dad is he weekend dad, so i'll take that, i treat him like he is my own, i never slag off his dad infront of him, the only thing i say is that tottenham are rubbish (his dad is a yid, and he is 5 so can't really drop the c bomb just yet)
i wanted to take the kid to the wolves game, but as its his dad's weekend to have him he wouldn't change weekends, that has upset the kid abit, but hopefully we will have a home draw next round too
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Grumpster
2:10 Mon Jan 4
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Fair play on anyone bringing up someone else's child.
I wouldn't want my own, let alone another blokes!
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Razzle
2:02 Mon Jan 4
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Nobody thanks you for being a good parent. Even more difficult when the kids are not yours.
As I said to a lad who's got a young one and split up from his missus "The best thing you can do is give your kid time and that is what they will love you for and remember"
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Agent Scud
1:32 Mon Jan 4
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Moved to Northern Ireland about 5 years ago to live with the missus and her boy (11, at the time).
Initially rented a place for us to see how it all went and then bought a house over here.
I pay the majority of everything and it's all in my name so as far as I'm concerned it's my rules or fuck off.
That applies to the boy and the missus.
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Gruesome Dump
1:08 Mon Jan 4
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Fucking Ada.
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alan.t
1:01 Mon Jan 4
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been step dad 22 years plus. left london to mve to n.ireland. i was cause of marrige break up. two step kids boy 2 girl 4. that was in may. dad took them that xmas didnt do anything after that. did pay £30 a week maintenece for a while then stopped. partner wanted to go to court to get it back.told her they are his kids if he dont want to support them thats his prob. i never said a bad word about him to the kids, and just treated them well, never tried to be the new dad. they both grown up boy has a son not planed, girlfriends mum chucked her out when she got pregnant she came to live with us. he calls me granda calls his real grandad granda clive. just let your partner and her ex sort things. dont take sides. kids will always rember no mater what age they must have a memory of the past. ask you partner what went on and how yhe kids were affected. be yourself the kids will come to love you if you treat them well.
good luck
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Gruesome Dump
12:26 Mon Jan 4
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There seems to be four hours worth of 'conversation' deleted from this thread...just as Hairy/H&P had made enormous twats of themselves.
Spoilsport mods.
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Yarmouth
12:12 Mon Jan 4
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Mike Oxsaw - sent you a whomail mate.
best,
Yarmouth
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Yarmouth
12:12 Mon Jan 4
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Schoffie - I know what you mean bud, but I've gone way past that option. Glad it's worked for you though :-)
best,
Yarmouth
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Mike Oxsaw
8:23 Sun Jan 3
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Yarmouth 6:19 Sun Jan 3
If anybody enters step-parenthood with any ONE of those suppositions, let alone the whole suite, they're on a loser from the outset.
It's a whole different ball-game from being a biological parent on so many levels the universe would run out of time before I got even a quarter of a way through listing the differences.
Becoming a step-parent requires serious expectation management from all parties - even the kids if they're over about 7 or 8. The ONE thing it's not is being a replacement parent: it's called a step-parent for a very good reason.
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Off The Shin
8:12 Sun Jan 3
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Fuck being a step dad, I accused mine of noncing me up when i was 8 , ruined the poor blokes life when it was actually nothing more than a snog.
Hes dead now , so think about that first is the only real advice i can give on the matter.
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Schoffie
7:19 Sun Jan 3
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I disagree Yarmouth.. I've nearly walked away on loads of occasions but things couldn't be better now.. Don't let the bastards grind you down as they say..
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Yarmouth
6:19 Sun Jan 3
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Peckham,
never, ever, ever, fucking ever, become a step parent.
I apologise if this is not what you want to hear, but it's the worst relationship you can ever have.
The kids will never consider you their real parent and subsequently disrespect your views if you try to implement them.
It worsens when they run to Mummy and she backs them over you every time - which they will & she will.
Believe me man - stay single, stay just dating her and have her over yours or go over her's when her kids are out for the night.
Once your'e all under one roof, that roof is never, ever your's to have any influence on again.
It's a plain fact of life that women will protect their kids no matter what - if you have biological kids you'd expect your misses to do so - but when in a step parent mode it will fuck you up because they will protect them against you too no matter how reasonable you are, or how it used to be with her when you were just dating.
Believe it mate - it'll happen. I've seen it and sadly experienced it.
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Nurse Ratched
5:18 Sun Jan 3
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Tch! People get so touchy over this paedophile business...
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Peckham
4:55 Sun Jan 3
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Only on WHO. Forget the Dad is a cunt.
Was interested to hear stories of being a step Dad , from either people who had tough times or good times and yes this was definately not the right place.
Although the very first response was of great help and a reminder to myself, not to lower my standards to his.
Dump - My mrs is not a slapper. Known her 29 years.
Nurse - No not too touchy, and low to suggest I am a nonce , was not even funny or sharp as your usual wit , hence no response.
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Gruesome Dump
4:42 Sun Jan 3
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Don't be absurd. I like everyone. It's one of my endearing features.
Anyway, stop USURPING Peck's thread.
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Nurse Ratched
4:37 Sun Jan 3
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Are you one of the 148? Surely not.
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